Your Journey to Wealth

Dear son,

It’s been months since we last saw each other. I’m glad that your plan has materialized — and you are now beginning your new job. This is a new chapter in your life, a new journey. Congratulations! I wish you success.

I just finished reading a classic book. And I can’t wait to share it with you. But I wish, we were face-to-face when we talk about this — just like the hundreds or maybe thousands of personal conversations we had since you were young.

The book I’m talking about is, “The Richest Man in Babylon.” It’s a very old book. Can you guess when it was originally published? In 1926. Yes 94 years ago. It’s already  year 2020 now. Six years more, the book will be on it’s hundredth years. And what I learned from the book is still applicable today.

Okay, I’m not going to make a full review of the book. Neither will I enumerate all the pointers presented by the author. I will not even retell the stories in the book. I will just share to you some lessons that resonate in me. So don’t worry, this won’t be exhausting.

There are several parables in the book. But all of them basically teach the same principles about how to handle our financial life. This is great for you especially now that you are just starting your new job. These practices may excite you to learn more about how to become a good steward of what God has given you. Here are some:

1. SAVE AT LEAST 10% OF YOUR INCOME. Well, this is flexible. Of course you can save 15% or 30% or even more. Just make sure ten percent is the minimum. I know you are already disciplined at saving money. So this won’t be difficult for you.

2. SPEND LESS THAN YOU EARN. This is another good habit. Can you imagine if you earn P10,000 a month and you spend P15,000 a month? How long will it take before you become buried in your own debt? No matter how much you earn, if you always spend more than your earning, you will always be wanting. It’s not about the amount of money being spent, it’s about the mentality of spending. I know people who earn more than P500k a month, but spend almost the same amount of their earning. When suddenly they get sick, or their child gets sick, they don’t have money for the hospital.

If you are going to compare the number of times you save money and the number of times you spend money, you will clearly see that spending is far far more frequent than saving. Usually, you will save money right after you received your salary. That means you do that only every two weeks, or twice a month. But you spend money almost everyday. That’s why spending money becomes a habit. An action that is frequently done becomes a habit. And if you spend your money without care, it will become a bad habit. And remember how difficult it is to change a bad habit. So keep in mind: always spend less than you earn.

3. INVEST YOUR SAVINGS. Okay, now that you already started saving money, what is your plan? What are you going to do with your savings? That’s when investing comes in. You will have to wait until your savings are enough to buy an investment. But while you are waiting, you better begin scouting and doing some research on where to invest your saved money. This book has good advice about it: Invest only on areas you are knowledgeable. Why? Because if you invest on something you are not even familiar with, there’s a big chance that you will just lose your investment. 

Wait! Let’s go back to the beginning. What is investing in the first place? In simple words, investing is making money work for you.

Normally, we work to earn money—and we do that by trading our precious time and our skills or talent in exchange of salary. On the other hand, when we invest, we don’t work for money, instead, we make money work for us. It happens when we buy an asset that we hope will give us a return higher than the amount we bought it.

One example is when we buy mutual fund from Philam Life for the amount of P30K, and after 5 years, our P30K worth mutual fund has increased its value to P50K. When we withdraw that mutual fund, we get P20K worth of interest in just 5 years. That is not possible when we just deposit the P30k in a bank as a savings account.

4. PROTECT YOUR MONEY. Now that you have saved and invested your hard-earned money, you need to protect those from fatal loss. Otherwise, your effort of saving will just be useless.

I’m not sure if I got this right. But this is how I understand this lesson from the book. You can protect your savings by putting it in a bank instead of hiding it under your bed or inside your locker.

How about your investment, how do you protect those? Okay, bear with me because it’s a little bit tricky to explain. You can protect your investment before you invest them. By choosing carefully where to invest, you are protecting your money. If you are not careful in choosing, you might become a victim of scam. Many people lost their savings and big amount of money from scam.

There’s a third way to protect your money: INSURANCE. Now this is even trickier to explain (by me, at least). So let’s have a scenario.

Imagine a father who has a P20K savings in a bank. At least, that money is protected. Now, imagine that the father’s son got sick and needed to be confined in a hospital few towns away from their home. After few days in the hospital, before they can go home, the father needs to pay P50K.

What will happen? Because the father has only a few cash in his wallet, he is forced to withdraw the amount of money from his bank, which is only P20K—that is all his savings. Now he is still in need of additional P30K to complete the total amount of hospitalization which is P50K. So his next move is to borrow money from a trusted friend or to apply for a loan. That loan will become a monthly spending—because from the next month onward, the father will start paying the loan for a few months so he can be free from debt again.

Because of emergency, the father lost his hard-earned money that he saved for months in just a few days of hospitalization. Not only that, he is also in debt now — in debt by P30K. All because of health emergency. Painful, isn’t it? What will happen if in another few months, his son is back in the hospital? Yes, you got it right, the father will borrow money again. And soon he will find himself buried in debt.

Here’s how insurance comes in. This is protecting your money indirectly. If the father bought a health insurance for him and or for his son, he won’t lose his money the way he did in the scenario above. If he has insurance, that insurance will cover most of the hospitalization cost. If he has insurance, he won’t need to withdraw his savings from the bank (at least his money is protected from being spent), he won’t need to borrow money from friends or to apply for a loan. At least he is free from debt, and free from financial worries.

5. KEEP LEARNING. This last lesson will seal your fate in an upward cycle of continually becoming better. It’s not about academic learning, it’s about improving yourself in the way you practice the first four steps above. It’s about..

  • improving your ability to make income;
  • strengthening your discipline to always spend less than your earning;
  • increasing your knowledge in investing;
  • being wiser in protecting your money.


Now it’s time to confess a not so secret truth. Son, you are blessed to know this now that you are still very young and has just started your career and your being a father. I didn’t know these lessons when you were young. All I knew then was to save money. But for what? I saved money because I wanted to buy a new Mac, or a DSLR, or an iPhone, or an iPad, or a motorcycle. But I never saved money to invest. I never bought an insurance. So if you can still remember, the story above is our story. I wish I had read the book a long time ago. But I know it’s not too late for me.

As for you, my dear son, practice these 5 lessons. It won’t hurt you. In fact, it may even improve your financial life. I wish for you to become financially independent early so you don’t have to leave your family just to earn money from a company you depend on. I hope these lessons will become your habits.

God bless you always!

I love you!






You can read the book if you like. There are plenty of free copies in the internet. You can also view some book animated review in Youtube, or listen to it’s audiobook version also in Youtube. There are plenty of sources out there. They are just a few finger clicks aways.

Getting Old Or Growing Old?

Dear son,

Happy birthday!

God has added another year in your life — what a wonderful blessing!

I always remember when you were just a few months old. I was carrying you in my arms, and you were looking at me. Your eyes were fixed at my eyes, as if you were telling me something serious, your eyebrows were crossed, perhaps wondering who was that skinny young man who was carrying you. There were no words to describe that positive emotion that I felt that moment.

Now, look at you, you’ve grown so much. You are now carrying your own son in your arms. I wish, you will become a great father to him, far greater than I was a father to you. I know you will also love him more than I have loved you.

All people get old everyday, every month, every year. We celebrate it yearly — on our birthdays. We all get old. But only some of us — a significantly fewer of us — really grow old. What’s the difference? You may ask. Getting old is about aging; growing old is about getting better in all dimensions of our personhood.

Getting old is physically automatic. You don’t have to do anything. In fact, even if you deliberately don’t do anything, you still get old, just much faster. Without effort, you are aging, you are consuming time, you are adding years to your life.

But growing old is never automatic. It needs effort. You have to be intentional. You need to act. You need to do something.

To grow means to become better. That means, to become stronger in our character, deeper in our faith, having healthier body, sharper mind, more loving heart. To constantly grow, means to constantly improve.

I’ve seen people who have gotten old but never did grow. Their skin became wrinkled, got poorer eyesight, weaker bones, and bald head. But they remain childish, immature, selfish, arrogant, and remained closed eyes. I’m sure, you have seen plenty of those people too.

I know you are not like them. And you won’t be like them. I taught you the importance of growing. I guided you in the slow process of growing. Now it’s your turn to teach your son to grow. Make him attracted to the process of growing. Train him to never stop discovering life, to always be excited to learn new things, and to improve the things he has already learned. “Train him up in the way he should go. And when he is old, he will not depart from it.”

Did you know that your effectiveness as a parent is based primarily in your ability to grow as a person? And did you know that, that is the most common misconceptions among many parents — they thought that parenting is about them facilitating their children’s growth, and that’s it. I’ve known a lot of parents who thought that their role as parents is to teach; and that their children’s role is to learn from them.

But no, that’s not complete.

Parenting is about both the parents and their child growing together in sweet harmony.

When I became a father, I didn’t stop growing. Instead, I became more interested growing myself. Observe how different I am now, compared to when you were still in elementary school. Even some of my beliefs in parenting have changed through the years. I even learned a lot of things from you.

Many parents I know, think that it’s them teaching their children to learn. And their children doing everything they can to learn from their parents. But actually, parents can learn a lot of things from their children too. As a father, I remember how I learned from you that if I listened carefully to what you were saying, I would discover an amazing point of view — something that’s different from mine, but is equally reasonable and acceptable.

Now that you are a father too, double your effort to grow. Grow together with your son, and with your wife. Grow as a family. Observe your son carefully. Learn from him. Discover life through his innocent little eyes. Listen to humanity through his tiny voice. Allow him to grow your heart bigger, stronger, and more enduring.

As your little one grows, he will teach you how to love unconditionally. He will teach you to be more patient, to listen empathically, to be more aware of your own emotion. Allow him. Open your mind wider. Be ready. I promise you, if you are intentional in your personal growth, it will be much easier to learn; and if you’re intentional in your parenting, you will learn as much as your little one will. And the more you grow as a father, the more you will be able to carry your responsibility as a parent.

Again, happy happy birthday son!

God bless you and your family!



Officially A Father

Dear Jonathan,

I congratulate you for having a first born of your own!

You are now a father. And that’s official. Your journey has taken a new chapter — one that will be more exciting than any other chapter you will ever have in your life. Son, this chapter will never end. But it’s up to you if you will make this wonderful or miserable. So from now on, you need to be very careful with your decisions. For whatever you decide will always have an effect on your son, and your family.

For now, enjoy this moment. There is no feeling of joy greater than seeing your first baby on his frist day. His cry becomes music in your ears. His first breath will take yours away. Cherish this my son. And don’t forget to thank God for giving you your little one. David is your greatest blessing!

I’m so happy for you son… you and Hannah! Thank you for giving me my first grandson! This is a new chapter in my life too. And I am very excited!

I love you always!



Undying Loyalty

Dear son,

It’s been five weeks since I last wrote you a letter. I’m sorry! I know I have no excuse. The world is spinning too fast, and a lot of things have already happened in the past month — both to you and to me. I like to congratulate you for finding a new job that is exactly aligned with your talents, hobby, and passion. That’s great! That job will never bore you.

In the mean time, I want you to cry. No, not that I really want you to cry. Actually, what I want is for you to watch the 2009 movie, “Hachiko — A Dog’s Tale.” For surely you will cry. I did when I watched it. Hachiko is a remarkable story of undying loyalty — one that is extremely rare to find among humans.

Dogs are incredibly loyal creatures. Once you create a bond with them, they will never break it. And if you do break that bond, they will remain your friend and keep their loyalty intact. Their body dies first before their loyalty. I learned it when I was five years old.

Forty Years Ago

We had a big dog named Boojie. It was my father’s personal pet, companion, protector, and friend when he was still in the army. We were in an area where rebels constantly battled with the army. So my father trained Boojie to protect not only him but also us: me, my mom, and my little sister, because he was always away — in the battle front line.

Boojie was an intelligent guard dog. I remember how amazed I was to see it following commands from my dad. When my dad tapped a table twice, Boojie would jump over that table. It would sit when my dad said so. And when my dad made a gesture to attack someone, Boogie would surely attack that someone.

One common experience among soldiers in the 70’s, was the reassignment of duties. One day, my dad surprised us that he was just reassigned back to the country’s main island, more than one thousand three hundred kilometers away from where we were at that time. And we had to move immediately. Since the only two options to travel was by plane or by ship, and dogs have their own fare, not to mention the clearances required to process to transport them, my father’s initial decision was to leave the dog. So we left Boojie alone.

pexels-photo-248273.jpegBut Boojie didn’t agree with the decision. He followed us as we travelled to the city from that remote mountainous area. My dad was tough. And I knew, he was trying to be tough that time as he was driving the old rugged car looking at the side and rear mirrors from time to time to check whether Boojie had given up following us.

Boojie steadfastly followed us for more than two hours, running in full speed in that very long and very rough road going to the city proper. It was my father who gave up. His toughness was no match to Boojie’s persistence; his strong heart was weaker than his dog’s loyalty.

He stopped the car and let Boojie come in. When I noticed its tongue to be unusually longer, I asked mom why. “Boojies has been running for two hours and he never stopped even though he’s very tired. He wants to come with us.” she answered me. My short 5-year-old arms weren’t enough as I embraced Boojie until we reached the dock.

In short, Boojie traveled with us in the ship back to the country’s capital.

Upon arrival, we went straight to my mom’s parents house and settled there for a couple of days. Then we traveled to my dad’s home to another province just to visit them. When we came back to my mom’s home four days later, Boojie was dead. My grandma told us that, “He won’t eat anything. I think he was so lonely. No matter what we did, he just kept on ignoring us. Maybe he thought you left him here. He just died yesterday.”

Almost forty years have passed, and I still remember the emotion that succumbed us all that moment. My mom cried. I did too.

The Why

Remember the first time I took you from your mom, to live with me? You were still in your fifth grade. When we arrived in your would be “new home,” I embraced you and said, “I missed you son!”

Then unexpectedly, you asked me a very innocent question, “What is ‘miss’ papa?” Apparently your young mind was not yet familiar with the concept of “missing a person.” I thought maybe because you haven’t experienced yet to have a bond with someone. I was  physically away from you, your mom was physically present but wasn’t caring enough for you. Maybe you didn’t know how it felt to be endeared by someone.

So I began a series of projects. First I bonded with you by being a friend more than a father at the time. Then I gradually gave you home duties that are solely yours so you would learn how to be responsible to what was expected of you. Years later, I taught you to grow plants and take care of them. Then finally, I inspired you to grow animals. First, the hamster, then the pigeons, then finally the dogs.

Before you went back to your mother, I noticed you have already learned how to bond with your beautiful dogs and cats. That’s a great thing son. That’s wonderful!

All those years, what I really taught you was the power of friendship. Because true friendship will always breed loyalty — the one thing that is so rare in our modern time, the one Hachiko demonstrated in the movie, the one Boojie taught me forty years ago.

Loyalty is so rare now, perhaps because people have forgotten how to become a good friend, a true friend, a trustworthy friend. They forgot that loyalty grows from true friendship alone.

My son, you are now becoming a father. It is no joke. You are not just growing a plant or a dog or a cat anymore. You will be growing another human being — another person just like you and me, with own body, heart, mind, and spirit. You will be growing someone who will be your legacy, and yet free to choose his own path. The one great way to do that is by being his dad — a father and friend rolled into one.

Now go, take a rest, and watch the movie. Learn as much as you can. Enjoy it!

I love you always son!

God bless you!


Fatherhood: Response-ability

Dear son,

My last letter to you was about fatherhood’s two faces: responsibility and opportunity to grow. I told you that responsibility is about the ability to respond to what’s expected of you. And then you asked me how in the world are you going to meet the super high, unbelievable, and most of the time, unreasonable expectations of people around you who claim to be your family but actually don’t care for you and Hannah, and your incoming baby.

Fatherhood Images
Two Images of Fatherhood

Well, my quick answer is a resounding NO! You don’t have to meet their unreasonable uncaring expectations at all. But that would be another topic to discuss. Just ignore them for now.

What I was talking about was God’s expectations from all fathers. Now that you are going to be a father, you need to be aware of these things. Because after reading this letter, you will jump from theory to practice.

Let’s begin…

Father’s have many responsibilities. We will not talk about all of them; instead, we’ll focus on just four basic duties expected of a father.

  1. Protection — You are expected to protect your family from all kinds of harm. In order to do that, you need to assess your environment. Are they safe from physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual harm?
    • physical harm is easy — is your house safe from diseases, thieves, physical pains, and unnecessary accidents due to poor household arrangements? Check it out. Do a general cleaning if necessary
    • emotional harm — how close is your family (you and Hannah) from people who constantly criticise, condemn, insult, and belittle other people including you and Hannah? If in case you are living among them, how do you prevent or at least neutralize those emotional harm that may cause your family unecesasry emotional pain? Figure it out. But don’t engage in war!
    • mental harm — attitude is very crucial to success, but it has two characteristics that may cause you problem: first, it is very contagious, second it is difficult to change. Now if you are surrounded by people with very negative attitude, how do you secure your family from being infected? Because remember, once you and your family is infected by the negativity of those around you, it would be very difficult to change and go back to your original mental state.
    • spiritual harm — attitude are just outward manifestation of an inner belief. If the people around you do not believe in God or do not believe that there are universal, timeless principles that govern us all, that may pose problems. If they believe that they can control the universe, and that they can control you, that would be dangerous. If your surrounding dont believe in the virtues I taught you — virtues like honesty, discipline, forgiveness, patience, faith — that may create conflict. But if their belief is far different from ours, DON’T ENGAGE IN ARGUMENTS. That won’t help at all. Arguments dont convince people, behavior does. 😉
  2. Provision — Again, as humans, we have four dimensions: body, mind, heart, spirit. Those four dimensions have different needs:
    • the body needs food, clothing, and shelter; the mind needs to learn and satisfy its curiosity; the heart needs love and acceptance, and the opportunity to love in return; the spirit needs meaning that comes from a higher being (in our belief system, it’s God, not money), and the priveledge to serve other people.
    • Now, as a father-to-be, you need to start thinking how are you going to provide those things directly or inderectly.
      • Food, clothing, and a decent shelter is the easiest part — but this one requires money.
      • Mind comes next. Providing education requires financial sources too. But teaching your son the right attitude, doesn’t require money. And that’s even more important than any bachelor degrees, MS, and PHDs this world can to offer.
      • Many fail in the “heart” part (have you ever heard of fathers who cant forgive their sons or daughters? They failed in the heart part of providing for the family) Let’s continue this in number three below.
      • The “spiritual” dimension is probably the greatest dillema in our society now. Very very few fathers provide spiritual guidance to their children — the world has become too busy, that its fathers choose to prioritize money and status above all else. When I was younger, I also made that mistake to you. I prioritized “everything else” in my life, and forgotten what is expected of me as a father. Now I’m catching up. I hope I can.
  3. Love, Encouragement, and Forgiveness — All these three have already become Where Elsevery very rare now in our modern dog-eat-dog, survival-of-the-fittest, “matira-matibay” society. But these three are essential. If your own family cannot find these three in your own home, where else can they find them? Nobody offers them anymore for free! Well, of course there are few exceptions out there. But when I say it’s “very very rare” its really very very rare. I seee people everyday whose parents cannot offer them love, encouragements, and forgiveness, so these poor people demand those essentials from false friends, strangers, drugs, and alcohol. The result? Chaos! Pain! Regret!
  4. Belief Foundation — Did you know that our first image of God comes from our first image of our earthly father? Yes. That’s why when you told me few years ago about your doubt on God’s existence, it almost crashed me. Because I knew, that I failed on this part of my responsibility as a father: I was not able to provide you a clear image of God. First, we fathers, do that by setting examples, by our behaviors, by the choices we make; second, we reinforce those behaviors with words of explanation. If we fail on our examples, no amount of explanation will compensate.
    • So prepare yourself on how are you going to give David the best image of the invisible God.
    • Another things is your overall belief system. In my 13 years of working with “so called leaders” I observed that most of them don’t have an intact belief system. They don’t know whether or not to believe that integrity is an imperative in leadership. Because of that, they compromise everytime, they are not consistent in their decision-making, and because they dont know what they believe, they don’t know how to respond to difficult situations. The result? People stop trusting them! As a father, one of your responsibilities is to establish that belief system in your family that is intact — a belief system that cannot be esily shattered by arguments, and cannot be swayed by painful experiences.

Example Failure

There are many more responsibilities waitng for you as a father. We haven’t talked yet about discipline and specific instructions and training, and about how to treat your wife. We’ll get there later. For now, I want you to begin thinking about these four basic expectations you need to meet. If you have noticed, I began from the easiest (protection) part, to the most difficult one (belief foundation) to make it easier for you to apply them. The last two responsibilites are just an expansion of the “heart” and “spirit” issues in both the protection and provision responsibilities.

I pray that you find this helpful. May God bless you and comfort you, and give you streght as you put these teaching into specific observable actions.

I love you always son!



31st Week: Creatively Pregnant

Dear Hannah,

Have a great day today!

Last time, we talked about being intentional in your every move — knowing that the baby in your womb has already started picking up and responding to most activities you take. And that by being intentional, you are showing your care to him deliberately, instead of just relying on the automatic systems of your body. I also promised you that on my next letter, we’d talk about why doing creative activities will prepare you better for the future of your mother-child caring interactions.

So, let’s jump forward to that near future…

Flash Forward

When David comes out — 9 weeks from now — he will begin his journey to discovery and growth. He will do it in stages. Every stage is different. As his mother, you will join him in this journey, one step at a time. As he learns new things, you will learn with him. As he grows, so are you.

Here are the first three stages of his life.

  1. Newborn — the first 3 months will pass by very fast or very slow. Depending on whether you are enjoying your son or you are frustrated because you can no longer do the things you’ve been doing before you became pregnant. Here, David’s life will be plain and simple: eat, poop, pee, cry, and sleep. You will observe him and learn his cycle and timing. Here, cry is his only language.
  2. Infant — months 4 to 6 are his infant days. Many things have already changed by this time — both for you and your little one. You are now accustomed to it, or more frustrated. Here, David will be interacting with you through smiles, coos, and laughs — not just cry anymore. He will have learned a lot of movements too. He will be crawling slow, sit by his own and begin learning how to use his hands.
  3. Baby — after his sixth month birthday, he will be officially called a baby. This will be his journey from 7 months old up to his first year birthday. Here you will find yourself running around the house chasing your little David as he crawls in the bed and at the floor, climbs everywhere, and picks everything in sight in order to put it in his mouth. Another approach is needed here.

Have you noticed? David will make significant changes every three months. So your approach in caring for him will also change. And in order for you to cope up with that constant change is to be creative in many things. If you are fixed with your first learnings, and not become flexible in changing your style, you will easily get frustrated.

Here are some specifics:

  • Beginning on his birth, he will ASK FOR MILK every two hours. If you have breast milk, you will feed him alone. And you will get tired, and will have sleepless nights. If you don’t have breast milk, then that means, you and Jonathan will go alternately preparing bottled milks for David every two hours during night. After 3 months though, David might be asking milk every 3 hours. Now, your Creativity will help you adjust during these months.
  • BATHING the baby will change dramatically as he grows from newborn to infant to baby. On his newborn months, you will bath him while he’s lying flat on a nursing table. You will do it very quickly so your baby won’t get cold by being exposed to water and air for longer minutes. During infancy, that will change. You will no longer be able to bath him lying on a flat surface because by that time, he is already able to sit and crawl. During bath time, you will sit him comfortably inside a baby tub. Of course that will require another set of skills and timing. If you are not flexible in learning, you and David will struggle during bathing time. When he reaches 7 months old, David will be fast in his movements, can crawl quickly and can grab a lot of little things in front of him. It will be difficult for you to bath him alone. Again, you need to be creative.
  • Changing his diaper after he poop will also need creativity. The first 3 months will be easy. But to change the diaper of a crawling baby who doesn’t understand the word “stop” yet requires creativity. If your are not prepared for this. You will get irritated, annoyed, or frustrated. If you are prepared, it will be fun!
  • As your baby grows, he will change his needs. Therefore you will change his SURROUNDINGS in order to cope up with his needs. Newborn is the easiest. All he needs is a warm embrace, milk, and clean diaper. But when he begins to crawl you need some soft barricades so he won’t fall off the bed when he wakes up while you’re still sleeping. When he learns to pick objects — small and bigyou need to rearrange your things within the house. You will not deprive him of his desire to grab objects, otherwise he won’t learn to use his fingers and his hands. But you also be careful on what objects he may pick to avoid any accident. Be creative in rearranging your things, and everything in your house that will get in contact with the baby.

These are just a few examples to give you a glimpse of what’s going to happen in your journey together. It’s going to be fun or frustrating — depending on whether you are creatively prepared or not. I’m telling you this because I have observed a lot of first-time mothers who were extremely frustrated because they never anticipated all these small things when they were still pregnant. They forgot to prepare, they thought everything will be automatic. They were not deliberate on their care. So they paid the price. But what is worse, is that their baby paid an even higher price.

I don’t want that to happen to you and David. And I’m sure you don’t want it to happen too. So practice your creative mind now while you’re still pregnant. When you practice doing creative things now, even if it’s not yet related to the baby, your mind will be equipped in using creativity to solve problems. And when your little one arrives, your creativity will help both of you.

As your baby journeys to discover life, you will discover a lot of things too — things about yourself, about Jonathan, about your little baby himself. And of course about life in general. But believe me, with a prepared mind and a ready heart, this journey will be the most exciting and fulfilling journey of all.

‘Til next time my dear daughter…

God bless you always!

Kisses to my grandson-to-be,



Two Images of Fatherhood

Dear son,

How are you? How’s my father-to-be son? How’s the excitement? How are you preparing for your new role?

Yes, you’re going to have an additional role in your life — a role that will stay with you for the rest of your life. Are you ready for the change? You can be. You must be. This role is a very important role. In fact, it is the most important role that you will ever have in your life. Try to stop reading for awhile, and think about what I just said. Can you imagine the implications of being a father — its implications in your own life, in Hannah’s life, in your incoming son’s life, in your mom and your brothers, in me, in your grandma, your aunts and uncles, in your community? Just pause and think about it for a minute. What does it imply, to be a father?

So, what pictures did your mind see?

Maybe you have seen a lot of beautiful images in your inner eyes. That’s great! Now, let us talk about just two of those images: Responsibility and Opportunity


Being a father is a great responsibility; you already know that. It is not just a title, or a name tag we use to call those men who have made some women pregnant. When you become a father, there are things that will be expected of you. And there are things that you will be accountable for.

What does it mean by being responsible?

Stephen Covey simplified the word by dividing it into its parts: response-able. Meaning, a responsible person is someone who is able to respond appropriately. But to respond to what? To what is expected of you. Different responsibilities have different expectations to fulfill. If you’re an engineer in charge of maintaining the smooth operation of a certain machine, you are expected to respond to circumstances that will affect the smooth operation of the machine. Now, if you are a father, you are expected to respond to some situations that arise in raising a child.

Being a father is a great opportunity too. That, you may not know yet. It is a great opportunity to grow as a person, as a husband, as a son, as responsible citizen. It is an opportunity to gain wisdom. If you are open to learning, and positive change, being a father is a great hands-on, live, actual practice. Being a father is an opportunity to become stronger in your four dimensions: body, mind, heart, and spirit. It is also an opportunity to leave a legacy — something positive that will remain in this world after you’re gone.

Now, these two gifts to all fathers —responsibility and opportunity— have distinct characteristics: responsibility is like a COMMAND. You cannot ignore it without painful consequences. Opportunity, on the other hand, is an OPTION. It’s up to you if you want to discover a fulfilling life, grow to your maximum potential, and leave a positive legacy behind; or just go with the flow of meaninglessness like a dead fish in a river and live a mediocre life.

Now, I hope you ponder more on this insights. It will help you establish a meaningful way of understanding your incoming new role. It will be your foundation. In my next letter, I will talk about a more concrete matters, specifically, about the responsibilities of a father.

Thank you for your time. Take care of yourself, take care of Hannah… and of course of the baby inside her belly.

God bless you all!